How to be a Peace Negotiator in the Family

As the day goes on, getting along with your relatives could be sometimes so difficult. Being at yourself could be misunderstood. Along your way, you may find out true people despite of what you have or emptiness. But the stream wouldn’t always flow towards you, yet sometimes it goes against you. The differences in character of every individual cause trouble with not merely you but other members in the family as well. However, it is always the best solution that peace begins to one’s self first.

In an avoidable situation, being a bridge of keeping peace would always be better than joining a one-sided stand. It would be further better if you could be a peace negotiator among members of your family to ensure and strengthen the love and unity that binds a family.

Prior to any dialogue with family members in trouble, it would always be necessary that you know the entire story of both sides. Though, it is extremely difficult to keep calm in order to fix the communication barrier and to resume the trust of each other. But one amongst the family member must struggle to be a middle man to convey the message of restoring love in the family. 

In the long run, it is always best to keep being civil with anyone in the family despite of the hardship of maintaining a closer relationship at all times. After all, they are your family whom you grow with and whom you care without return.

Bridging peace in the family is equally the same basic principle as negotiating a business deal. It couldn’t be easy but as always one must think a thousand times before saying anything. You must control your lips. Be careful on your expressions or words that you’ll be using. It means then that you must learn to negotiate the proper way at right words, right thing at the right place and at the right time. Keeping our mouth shut for a while before speaking anything is sometimes better because we would let our ears listen first before we intervene. Being on the negotiation table would further mean that one must possess humility and calmness during the entire process. Don’t let the emotions overruled you destructively.

As a negotiator you must convey the message of your sincerity to fix the problem and restore peace amongst them. Though, it is always an edge if the middle man would be a respectable family member by the parties in trouble, however, developing respect could be achieve on the spot if negotiator shows respect at all times as well. Talk with calmness and respect would be the key factor in able to sit down and discuss all issues and problem amongst the members. Be considerate and give both sides a chance to release and express their emotions in order for you to get along with the situation and a chance to understand the situation deeper.

The peacemaker shall be meeting the parties in between as long as the parties allow and ready to meet your goal. However, although it is not always going to happen the way you want it to do but the peace negotiator must always ready to flex himself and go with an alternative considerable solutions. A peacemaker must not easily giving up and weaker than the parties in trouble, instead, the peacemaker must be ready to face the challenge and move beyond the unexpected remedy to achieve the resolution of the problem as its ultimate goal. At the end, the peacemaker must always give its best shot to get back the joy, love and unity of his/her precious gift in life, a family.